Throw Back!

Again, not that far back in the past, but still a classic!
[In my book, anyway. haha]
Janet looked absolutely crazy [and hot] in this video; and Busta Rhymes, well, he tried with the visuals. We all know the man can rap though. lol.

Please Be Kind, and Brush.

The day was off to a good start.

It was my day to feel useful - to do something with my life - I was going to help people. I felt alive with purpose.

Sure, I was running a bit late for volunteering, but I didn't mind. The sun was shining bright outside, and there was a soft breeze. When I arrived to my destination, I easily found a parking space, and walked briskly into the building. The coordinator greeted me with a smile as I walked in - she was happy to see me despite being 10 minutes late. It was always a pleasure to see her as well. You could tell she took care of herself: her hair was cut just so it fell right on shoulders, her glassed were set just right on her face - never requiring adjustment; and you could tell her two-piece suit was tailored to fit her small frame. Ms. Grett had her sh*t together. She guided me to the area where I would be working which just so happened to be a room with a window. Yes, this was going to be a good day...

...or was it?

As I began to get situated and logged on to the computer, Ms. Grett walked in with another volunteer who would be "shadowing" with me. He was a tall, skinny, guy with hair that would've been estranged to the sight of a comb. He had to be about 19 or 20 years of age. He wore a black shirt, black pants, and a black belt - all faded to different tones. I reminded myself I wasn't there to judge, but to help. I smiled and invited him in.

He sat down next to me, and opened his mouth...

"Hi..."

I parted my lips and began to breathe in the required air to give a response, but instead of fresh air I was choked my the lingering unpleasant odor that was coupled with this boy's exhaled carbon dioxide.

This changed my day.

Suddenly, I wanted to go home. I wanted fresh air. Would I seriously be in this room with that breath for the next 3 hours? He'll have questions, and I'll be reluctant to give answers. Why? Because I didn't want to be violated again. Breath like that is offensive. I felt harassed, and I didn't have to take it.

I discreetly felt my pant leg, desperately seeking the comfort of that rectangular box that contained my Orbit® gum. A feeling of anxiety came over me as I came to the realization of its absence - I had left it in the car.


This was going to be a long day.


Luckily the boy didn't have many questions, and whenever possible I responded by nodding or shaking my head. If I had to speak or breathe, I was able to sip [and inhale] my Vanilla Chai for relief. It was a long 3 hours, but I made it. [By the grace of God].

So what's the moral here? Don't put your peers through the same distress. Brush your teeth in the morning - before and after breakfast if you can. Which is the other key: EAT something in the morning. Otherwise, we're gonna smell the acid in your stomach - regardless if you brushed or not. This is also why chewing gum, alone, doesn't always work.

So please be kind, and brush. We'd all appreciate it. Thanks.


Class dismissed.

Did ABDC Not Get the Memo?

Apparently, they didn't.

I let it slide last week after they featured a song with Chris Brown in it. I won't lie, BeatFreakz killed the performance to T-Pain's "Freeze," but Chris Brown is in the song!

[The performance was so hot I had to embed it here so y'all could see!]


So then I tune in tonight, and they have an opening act that included "What Them Girl's Like" by Ludacris [and who?] Chris Brown.

And not even before I could finish writing the above paragraph - they had a group dance to Chris Brown's "Forever!"

Are they not in the loop?
Have they not checked the news?

Did they not see what he's done?

I could understand if the shows were prerecorded months before all this [like in the case of The Real World] or something, but [allegedly], these shows are recorded every week! So why do they think it's cool to still use Chris Brown's music, or music that features him is it? A shame.


I'm going back to study for my test now. I just needed to get that out...

Does the End Justify The Means?

Allow me to paint a picture....

You feel under-compensated for your work at your job. You've gone to your employer about a raise, but they're not willing to grant you one at the present time. Therefore, you take it upon yourself to slack off a little at work: you take an extended lunch break, surf the internet, and/or take a few company supplies with you as you leave for the day - feeling somewhat more compensated for your work - but did the end justify the means? Was it right to steal from you're employer just because they weren't giving what you wanted, or should you have found another job?

With that in mind, let's say you're in a relationship and the sex doesn't occur as often as you'd like. Things were good in the beginning, but lately you're beginning realize your partner doesn't share the same sexual appetite as you do. Thus, you've gone to them about your needs, and (s)he has told you that you're not simply getting any more - because (s)he doesn't want it. So what do you do? You require satisfaction...

Buy a toy and handle your own needs?
Find sex outside of the relationship?
End the relationship altogether?

To which can you truthfully say that the end justified the means?

Is it right to satisfy yourself when a toy [or hand] while your partner is around?
[Thus risking your sexual availability when the finally want some.]

Is it right have your sexual desires fulfilled by another - unbeknownst to your partner?
[Do I need to mention the consequences involved with that?]

Is it right to totally break things off because you're not getting enough sex?
[Everything else in the relationship is pretty good, but is lack of sex a good enough reason to end it?]


Which can you handle?


Opinions, please...

Double Your [Pain]....

Clearly we all had the wrong idea when Chris Brown informed the ladies that he would take them down. Instead of serenading them in the bedroom, he seems to prefer beating them in his car.

I have to say, I'm somewhat disappointed in Chris. Granted, I'm not a huge fan, but this was a dumb move - for anyone. Michael Phelps has a better chance of salvaging his career and recovering his fan base after what he did.

The big question now is what provoked Chris to lay hands? [For those that don't know, the term "lay hands" is code for beating up someone]. The rumor now is that Rihanna gave Chris genital herpes - or worse. I'm starting to believe this might be true since Rihanna wants to end the investigation about the situation; a smart move for Rihanna if she wants to remain "the victim" in all of this. She'll be sure to gain a lot of support, and even more fans if - what may be - the truth is kept under wraps. However, if the fight was sparked over her giving Chris the herpes, then things may turn around; and Chris will be seen as "the victim."

Now, I'm not saying that Chris was right for opening up a can of whoop @$$ on Rihanna if she gave him herpes, but I had to think, myself, if I would lay hands on a woman for giving me an incurable disease. I'm gonna say "no," but there's no doubt I'd be upset. I believe it was a combination of stress and anger that made Chris snap. The child is only 19 after all....

Throw Back!

Gina Thompson ft. Missy Elliott - Ya Di Ya


What ever happened to Gina?

As if her hat wasn't enough...

I didn't believe this at first, and I'm still a bit skeptical about it; but its funny. The YouTube video below highlights Aretha telling somebody to "Shut up" while she was singing at the inauguration. It's really believable because she gives the individual "the look" right after she says it!



The video from CNN of the whole song can be found here. The "shut up" occurs at about 2:14.

I'm gonna get back on the floor now. lol.

My Little Secret....

Is it just me, or are songs about cheating really catchy?

Typically, it's rare that I'll like a song the very first time I hear it, but as I was reflecting on some music earlier; I realized that some of my all-time favorites are songs about cheating. I became concerned, as I've never cheated, nor do I consider myself a cheater; but here's some that came to mind:

Xscape - "My Little Secret" So this was the first song I connected with about cheating. In fact, its the only song by Xscape that I know very well. If you're not familiar with the song, it's a group of girls that are all singing about their sexual trysts with another woman's man. The scandal continues as the girls go on to explain how they love being in the same room with the man's girl - knowing that she's completely in the dark!

John Legend - "She Don't Have To Know" [I prefer the live version, but the lyrics are the same]. So in this song we have John talking about his adventures with his female friend - that isn't his girlfriend. The song goes onto explain how John knows the girl is cheating on her boyfriend too, but they both don't care because they're just so madly in love [or in lust] with each other. Cute, right?

Destiny's Child - "Confessions" [Yes, I know Usher did "Confessions" too, but Destiny's Child did it first, OK?] As opposed to the other songs, the girls of Destiny's Child are showing some sorrow for their actions, but its still about cheating as Beyoncé basically describes why and how she did it.

Amy Winehouse - "You Know I'm No Good" [Disclaimer, I'm not exactly certain if I was more into this song because it was about cheating, or if it was because it made mention to Tanqueray. Just sayin']. So we've got our girl Amy here talkin' about how she's no good because she's forever cheatin' on her man. I give her some credit, because at least she realizes she's no good for doing so.

Jaime Foxx - "Just Like Me" So this song brings a "twist" of sorts in respect to the other songs about cheating as Jaime is well aware that his girl is cheating on him, however, he can't be mad at her because he's been doing the same thing! So they both know they're cheaters, and they're OK with that, and everyone goes home happy.

So what is it about these songs that's so attractive? Typically you find yourself liking a song because you can connect with it on some level. And these artists release these songs knowing that people will be able to connect/relate to them on some level, and most of these songs were hits! [Granted, not all of them listed here, but generally songs about cheating do well]. So does that mean that everybody cheats? Could Xscape have been right?

Personally, I think I find myself liking these songs because cheating - in most cases - is a secretive thing. Now, I'm not saying that I'm a very secretive person, but we all can admit that everyone has a secret. So when I hear these songs, it's not the idea of cheating that I connect with, rather, it's the secret that embodies it. And, in a quite sinister way, it's kind of exciting to know you hold a piece of information that isn't accessible to everyone. It's "My Little Secret" because no one else knows about it, or it's mine to decide who to share it with. And if I decide that "She Don't Have to Know," then she doesn't have to know. That is, unless it were to come out in a series of "Confessions," but I wouldn't do it like that. "You Know I'm No Good," and I'm pretty sure you're "Just Like Me" in that regard because everyone has a secret, but can they keep it?

"...oh no they can't."


Class dismissed.

Is He Really Good?

So I was in Wal-Mart The Other Night, [Y?] picking up a few items when I noticed this woman. And I didn't notice her because he was attractive, or fine, or dressed well; in fact, she looked a mess - that's why I noticed her.

So I'm walking down the aisle, and I notice her at the end of it: slouching over her cart, jacket half off of her shoulders, hair in disarray, and she had on this shirt [that was a stretched out, white, tank top that was a lil' dirty]. And the shirt read:

"God is Good."

For real?

Now I've come from a religious background, so I was a bit disappointed that God was being represented in such a poor manner. I mean, why wear a shirt like that while you're lookin' that miserable? I'm not gonna be convinced that God is good. In fact, I'ma be a bit skeptical about tryin' God because of what it looks like he did to you.

And this can be applied to other things. For instance, if I were to see someone out in the store rockin' a uniform from AT&T, and they look miserable, then I'm going to get the idea that AT&T just might not be a good company to work for.

So the moral of the story is: if you want to convey the idea that God is good, or wish to make some other positive representation of something, then look happy while you're wearing propaganda for whatever it may be. Because that's how you get your message across. If I see someone out in a Bob Evans uniform skippin, and lookin' happy as hell, then I just might consider waiting on a few tables at Bob Evans my damn self.

So be happy people, because we're watching.


Class dismissed.